I recently came to the hard realization that I cannot solve every difficult relationship with kindness and compassion. Some people just do not respond to it, and in some cases, it actively stokes the fire of anger and resentment. This has nothing to do with me and everything to do with the other person. I have learned that when this is the case, it is important to distance myself, and if possible, completely walk away. This is infinitely more challenging when it is someone in your own family but it is sometimes the only option. You cannot change a person, or a situation, but you can protect your own heart and peace of mind.