“To plant a garden is to believe in tomorrow.’ ~ Audrey Hepburn
Two years ago, spring was very difficult for me. My heart was broken in a million pieces after the sudden end of my marriage; and I was very focused on just getting up every morning and putting one foot in front of the other.
It was at that time that I came back into contact with a dear friend of mine, Heidi. Heidi is a not only a lovely woman; she is a very talented horticulturalist and garden coach. What is a garden coach, you ask? Her vision is to reconnect people with their gardens. She is interested in building your confidence and knowledge, so you can ultimately learn to work intuitively in your own space.
When we started the project, I had been living in my home for thirteen years. During that time, I had spent almost no time at all in my backyard. My house was originally built in the 1950s and the yard itself was large and unruly. I had always mowed the grass but that was about all I could manage. Just being in the space made me feel uncomfortable. I did not know where to start. How do you revitalize a whole garden? As Heidi so wisely summarized it: “One bed at a time.”
Throughout the spring and summer, we worked together to transform each bed. There was a lot of digging, hauling and hands in the soil. Gardening is a really therapeutic activity, which leaves very little time for rumination: it brings you right into the moment and the task in front of you. We brought in sea soil to nourish and new plants to brighten. Heidi has the unique ability to see the project as a whole. All I had to do was show up and do the work.
Heidi and I started this project in the spring of 2016 and, two years later, we are still going strong. Slowly but surely, my garden has taken on new shape, colour and form. Life is springing up in every nook and cranny. It has even become a family project; my mother and daughter often join us to help out with various projects.
We have spent many afternoons patiently cultivating my overgrown yard together and it is now on its way to being a beautiful, restful space. Last year, I was able to realize a long held dream to plant a new fruit and vegetable garden. It is really satisfying to grow your own food. This year, I am going to test out some new, natural pest control options and plant spacing.
There has been something magical about this experience; Heidi and I call it our “healing garden.” Moving and exerting the body. Immersing your hands deep in the fresh soil. Carefully tending to plants and bushes. Breathing in the fresh air and hearing the sounds of nature around you. It is very therapeutic. The ground itself contains powerful, nourishing energy.
Now that spring is on its way, I am really looking forward to getting back out there and continuing our project together. My daughter is already talking about planting her own special bed with flowers that she chooses herself; and my mom is excited to plant her pots. I am so grateful for this shared experience. My garden has become a living expression of friendship, connection and love.