I am a planner. I like to organize, decide a course of action, and create forward motion. It helps me to feel ‘in control’ of my life. As I get older, however, I am realizing that there really is no such thing as control. Hard work and effort are certainly essential and valuable; but these actions will not necessarily take you exactly where you want to go.

Sometimes we set our minds on obtaining the ‘perfect’ job, relationship or opportunity; but if you really pay attention, you will notice that no matter how hard you push, or how certain you are, it will not come together unless it is meant to be. You cannot force it. And when it is the right fit, there is almost nothing that you can do to stop it from it gaining momentum. It is so easy and effortless.

I continue to dream and plan and organize but I know that when I meet enough resistance, it is not the right fit, and I must change tactic. This does not mean giving up, but it does mean that I must consider another route, or investigate a different approach; and if it still does not work, I begin to open my mind up to new possibilities, and pay attention to where there is more ease and flow: then I go in that direction. Sometimes you discover the most delightful surprises and opportunities in the most unexpected of places.